Thursday, June 30, 2011

because the future comes a day at a time.

TGITh (because Thursdays = Fridays in my world)!

I'm sitting in the lounge of the PSU gym watching the Nigeria-Germany game of the FIFA Women's World Cup. I'm very excited! Soccer is something that I will always love, and can find camaraderie with any fan around the world as futbol is indeed the world's game.  It's weird to think that last summer I was watching the Men's World Cup from ex-pat bars in Zimbabwe sipping on SoCo and lemonade. How times change :)

I'm fully settled into my life in Portland. Jake and I have resolved our differences, and he's even become quite affectionate! I think, as with most human beings, change can be a scary, unpredictable, stressful thing that can bring out the weaknesses in ones character; even stoic felines. 

The thing is, change in its rawest form doesn't tend to last very long. It's a marked period of fluctuation followed by the establishment of a new routine.  Now that I'm living in Portland, it means waking up, going rowing or studying for a few hours, catching the bus, people watching for about 15-20 minutes, attending Arabic class for the next three hours racking my brain for vocabulary and conjugations, spending a good hour or two at the massive PSU gym and then getting home to throw dinner together before collapsing into bed and doing it all again.

Exciting?

Actually, it kind of is! I even have the weekend Farmer's markets and socializing with friends to spice things up!

Instead of spending another month with my family, I decided to carve our a new space, create a new thread in my life quilt of new adventures. I fill each day to the max because, well, why not?? I have a focus to my efforts here that I didn't when I was home...probably because in all honesty I was too comfortable there. Sleeping in until 11am everyday, watching marathons of NCIS, and having meals become the highlight of my day doesn't make for a productive or happy self. What's more, I lacked the self-discipline to break out of a cyclic blah-ville .

So, I forced a change, and Portland became my outlet.

Portland is a wonderful city, and I've taken a lot of joy in exploring the various neighborhood vibes near my apartment and PSU's campus. I have started a list of restaurants, cafes, and shops, splitting them between my favorites and ones I want to try in the future. I know how to get around the city better than ever. 

Yet even now I'm looking to the next change: Bosnia.  My departure date is only three weeks away...it's totally snuck up on me! Time to crack that guide book that's been sitting on my bookshelf for way too long :)

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Growing Pains.

You know it's going to get interesting when by day three, mental notes-to-self are too numerous to account for: unplug the microwave, don't overfill the tea kettle or risk boiling overflows, open the bathroom door when you shower, push the toilet handle down all the way and HOLD it or else it will feign plugged-ness like a kid who plays sick to try and stay home from school.  NICE TRY toilet. No, I did not miss my bus this morning despite your best attempts to fool my newfound talent for early arrival. Take that you and your sniffly little toilet complaints elsewhere. In this little studio apartment I reign QUEEN.

Well, sort of. Like any obnoxiously bold statement (you know what they say about men in super-sized pickup trucks...) I am obviously trying to make up for some faulty, crippling insecurity in my life. 

To be honest, it's not even an arch rival human being. It's a cat by the name of Jake.

This little man-cat thinks he's the coolest cat around. And he probably is, but that's not really saying much because as far as I know, he may be the only cat in the building, aside from the little yapping creature next door that really should qualify as anything other than a dog. But I digress.

Jake is a beautiful tabby with attitude to boot. When I was in the process of moving in, he was on his best behavior for his momma, playing cute, purring, letting me pet him...now all I get is clawed swats at my ankles from under the table; stealthy ambushes that leave me licking my wounds. 

I thought I was the human here?!

Apparently, Jake has other ideas. In an attempt to play the bigger person (cat?) by not reacting to such behavior, I seem to be encouraging more of the same, not less, from Jake. The boredom that I had hoped would plague Jake and then cause the abandonment of his evil plans after he realized he wouldn't get a rile out of me has faded along with the hope of reciprocative interest. All I can say is that I'm in this studio apartment for three weeks and we both better make it out better than where we're starting. It can only go up from here.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Indoor Tornado Warnings.

It's almost midnight, and I've just started to pack for my move to Portland. It may be just a hop skip and a jump from my little town in Washington, but its far enough that it takes some planning...and I'm discovering that since my last travels I've made little progress in streamlining my preparation process. There's crap all over the floor, stacks of books, piles of (clean/dirty?) clothes, and electronic cords...did a tornado swipe through my room in a mere 20 seconds???? I don't know how this happens sometimes!

I should say though, that I do best under pressure. I just need the extra incentive of a countdown to get my butt moving and into packing mode! T minus 8 hours til departure...

I'll be attending PSU and taking Arabic courses. I'm subletting a cute little studio in NW Portland and commuting to class. I'm a bit nervous as I'm enrolled in an intermediate colloquial class because that's all that was available for the summer session. It's inevitably going to be quite above my comfort zone...but if all I did was stay with what I knew, then I would never grow.  So, I will accept the the mistakes, embarrassment, and struggles, along with the development I know I'll be pushed to make along the way.

Here's to a new adventure not so far from home, but challenging enough to warrant some worries. I CAN'T WAIT!

Friday, June 10, 2011

Revisited Horizons

It happened over a pile of garlic fries and a blue cheese "hill-billy" burger at the Ram, right before Spring Break. My parents, tired (and admittedly worried) of my uncharacteristic moping, poor attitude, polar mood swings, and overall grumpiness, had decided to stage an intervention.

Being my parents, they of course knew that the best way to get me to engage with them was by appealing to my stomach...and/or by getting me riled up about political things that I care deeply about. Turns out, they got quite a bit of both that evening. Everything that had been weighing on my shoulders for the last few months since getting back to the States and all the thoughts that, unable to be released by an incredible plague of writer's block, remained trapped inarticulately in my mind, became topics of conversation that night.

We of course started out on the benign, safe, lovable, easy subjects like school and rowing, but it wasn't long until it turned towards a rehashing of recent news. My mom, the Gladys Cravitz and gossip queen of my life, of course had to inquire into the relationship realm first: Had I talked with Phil since the breakup? (no) Did I want to? (yes) Would I? (probably not) Why? (because I had rationalized myself out of contacting him again, mainly because it still hurts. Plus, I was in the process of getting used to the fact that a lot of things in Jordan will always remind me of him/us. I'm okay with that. I want to heal. I know it was real...just not realistic I guess). My answers, much more calm and reasonable than the last tearful conversation, seemed to please my Mom. I could see her sizing me up with those all-knowing eyes, as she reached across the table to squeeze my hand. Emotional grade? B+

It was an easy transition into talking about Jordan then of course, something that as I took a bite of my fatty burger seemed a long way off from the hummus and falafel of Hashem's. But I settled right into it. Jordan makes me think of sandstorms, long pants, Sanoodii wa ustrahtee, shai, Muna, Majd, my beloved neighborhood girls, CIEE staff, camels, Petra, Aqaba, taxis, taxi drivers, wandering through cities and getting lost, retracing my steps, walking with purpose like a local, speaking Arabic, thinking in Arabic, realizing that my English is now peppered with colloquial Arabic and thus getting odd looks from strangers...

I miss Jordan so much. Once I get started talking about it, I don't want to stop. It makes me ignore the glazed over faces of my listeners for just a few minutes longer than what is polite. But I can't help it. I know I'm teetering dangerously on the edge of romanticizing my experience there now that significant time has passed.  I've been able to fall right back into expected social behaviors of the USA without consequence while living vicariously through the Facebook statuses of my CIEE friends who have stayed for another semester. It lets me smile and nod along, while lounging around my house in the USA in my usual sports bra and shorts (major haram).

In any case, my parents are some of the few who don't glaze over when I tell them in no particular order more of my favorite stories. I also revisit my time with  IOM Iraq alot; how I lived the life of a professional adult, writing reports and conducting research that people usually get paid to do in their careers. I've had a taste of the future, and I want more. Because of my time with IOM and the U.S. Embassy in Harare I have begun to think of a career relating to international migration and protracted refugee conflicts. It's a relatively new and exciting field, one that is demanding experts, policy makers, and lawyers. I think I finally hear my calling. I tell my parents so. They look incredibly pleased that I've escaped the wishywashy meaning-of-life career limbos typical of a liberal arts student. I grin excitedly, but warn them I haven't made any promises. Abroad experience/Future Plans Grade? A/A-

Finally, we discuss the politics of revolution sweeping across the Arab world. It's something I've followed on Al-Jazeera obsessively. It's distracted me in class, while rowing out on the river, and kept me from my homework. It's a movement I somehow feel tied to, as if the Egyptians' struggles are mine too. I know it sounds ridiculous. How can a white blonde American girl feel justified in "identifying" with the millions of impoverished and oppressed peoples in the Middle East? Around the world? Especially with the degree of privileges I benefit from. At its best, my "connection" is superficial, but I've ignored it and decided to let my overall identity as a human being overwhelm my doubts. Perhaps it was the eerie realization that the hostel I stayed in in August was literally 2 blocks from Tahrir Square. Perhaps it was thinking of the kind Egyptian men we chatted with who were genuine, kind, overwhelmingly generous and respectful. I don't really pray, but I prayed a couple nights thinking of these men, their faces in my mind with their families, for their safety.

Then there was increasing violence in Lebanon, another beautiful country that humored my love of culture and adventure. Photos revealed protesters in the very square in Tripoli where I ate baklava and caught the bus a month earlier. Beirut similarly became transformed into roadblocks, fiery tires, and protests. I was on edge as the weeks unfolded seeing how Jordan, my host-country, would respond. Then came the discussion of Palestine.

It was a series of issues that evolved into one of those typical heated family discussions that I love so much. My family is an incredibly loud force in public, considering its only the three of us. :)  We stayed in the booth long after the couples and families in the surrounding booths departed, enjoying our conversation and the time together. Political awareness/family bonding Grade? A (for effort)


Much has happened since that intervention, but it was a turning point in my reintegration in the USA. Until then I didn't really know where I belonged; or rather I felt like I belonged in too many places. It was with this realization that I found a label: I was experiencing the a full-blown 5 step grieving process of denial, sadness, anger, bargaining, and acceptance, with lots of nostalgia thrown into the mix. I had spent the last year and a half planning for the 8 months while abroad but hadn't considered an exit strategy.These places all became familiar to me and mark a stage of my life that I will never ever be able to return to. It was truly a once-in-a-lifetime series of events, people, places, and times. I am still coming to term with that, but am much more confident in finding a way to look forward now.

Who knew that my family and a massive dose of Americana would help push me over into the next part of my life... to the next horizon.